The 30 Beauty Project: Week 7

There is absolutely nothing you can see or touch that makes you beautiful.

 The prettiest girl in the world is the one with the most confidence.

Age: 30

Occupation/Passion/What do you do?

Bank Teller

What would you tell your 15 year old self about

•         Beauty one day you’ll look back and laugh, it’s not what you thought it was. Beauty is a smile and confidence, not the latest trends, makeup and hair

•         Fashion is much easier when you are 15, have fun

•         Love there is no way to confince you that love, everlasting, forever, is not possible at 15 so just go ahead and fall. The heart aches will teach you more than anything class.

•         Sex the consequences are endless and it’s just not worth it.

•         Family will always be there no matter what, even if right now they seem like the enemy. They are secretly your only true ally

•         Friends are something you have to work on but the good ones will always be there

•         Body Image so many things about your appearance will change over the years, work on your soul and you outter image will come

•         Fitness it’s so much easier to lay in front of the tv or computer but so much better to get out and get active. Find something you love and stick with it.

•         Nutrition  is so important, your mom doesn’t force you to eat your vegtables as some kind of weird torture.

What was the one thing you were scared of when you turned 30?

That I wouldn’t matter anymore, I give a lot to my family, especially my kids and more and more I feel myself slipping away. My wants are smaller and more insignificant. I feel as I get older I can’t be selfish anymore and some times that part of me needs to come out. I want to matter.

What’s the best lesson you’ve learned over the years about beauty?

It’s not about your clothes or your shoes or makeup or hair. There is absolutely nothing you can see or touch that makes you beautiful. The prettiest girl in the world is the one with the most confidence.

What do you consider beautiful about yourself?

The family I am raising. My girls are beautiful and every achievement they make I know I had a part in it and it makes me feel accomplished and beautiful.

What do you consider beautiful about your best friend, which she may not know about herself?

She’s fearless and always says what’s on her mind.

Have you had a moment where you realized beauty may be something other than what the media portrays it as?

Probably around the time I had my first daughter, when I was 25. My body changed so much and so did my hormones. Everything I did couldn’t counteract it and I lost a lot of my self-confidence. I put a lot of stock in my appearance and had to learn a very harsh life lesson, that everything wasn’t about me and I had to find a new way to view myself and find a new worth. I realized it wasn’t about outter beauty and found a way to be confident again. A lot of that had to do with raising my daughter and teaching her things and finding things we both enjoyed. When my second daughter came, I was 28, it wasn’t as big as a shock and I hope I can pass on a different way to look at yourself to my girls.

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The 30 Beauty Project: Week 6

There is nothing more beautiful than a woman with brains

Never stop learning, keep developing your skills and open your mind and heart to new things.

Age: 31

Occupation/Passion/What do you do? Teacher turned Stay-at-home mom

What would you tell your 15 year old self about: (Answer all or as many as you like)

•         Beauty knowledge is beauty, nothing more beautiful than a smart confident woman so keep studying lol

•         Fashion experiment and have fun while you’re young cause one day you’ll have too little money and too much body to wear whatever you want

•         Boys Danger! Danger! Haha stay away

•         Love first love yourself, then love others

•         Men Again, danger! haha

What was the one thing you were scared of when you turned 30?

Not having what everyone else had. Not having the house, the 2 cars, the dog, the cat, the cabin for summer with the boat. The quad, skidoo and everything else. But it’s not about that, and it took having a child at 30 to realize that.

What’s the best lesson you’ve learned over the years about beauty?

There is nothing more beautiful than a woman with brains. Never stop learning, keep developing your skills and open your mind and heart to new things.

What do you consider beautiful about yourself? Everything, I know I’m beautiful, I believe it and I wouldn’t change a thing about myself.

What do you consider beautiful about your best friend, which she may not know about herself? She has an amazing ability to capture an audience. When she walks into a room everyone wants to talk to her, know her, and be her. She is radiant.

Did you feel you were beautiful at age 10? Yes

Age 15? Yes

Age 20? Yes

Do you feel you are beautiful now? Yes

Have you had a moment where you realize beauty may be something other than what the media portrays it as? When woman are asked to be thin and blemish free rather than smart you know there’s something wrong with the media. We push clothes and shoes and hair products on woman when we should be focused on education and building a females confidence through knowledge.

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The 30 Beauty Project: Week 5

There is only 1 person who’s opinion matters when it comes to beauty, yours.

Age: 32

Occupation/Passion/What do you do?

Office Manager

What would you tell your 15 year old self about: (Answer all or as many as you like)

•         Beauty isn’t as important as personality

•         Fashion find what fits and works on your body

•         Boys are just boys. And sometimes men are boys.

•         Love you won’t believe it but you are waaayyy too young to understand romantic love

•         Men you should not even be concerned with this at 15

•         Sex you should not even be concerned with this at 15, but you probably are. Learn as much as you can and if you must, be safe and be aware of the realities of the consequences.

•         Family one day will be your best friends, but they are probably your enemies today. Try being nicer, you’ll regret the mean things you say and do one day.

•         Friends the good one or ones will be around forever, the sooner you realize who they are the better

•         Body Image find some way to be happy with the person in the mirror. Body image isn’t as important as public image, be a good person.

•         Fitness stay active, stay active, stay active!

•         Nutrition you’re not told to eat your vegtable to be annoying, there is many good reason for it. And milk, and fruit, and grains, etc etc etc.

What was the one thing you were scared of when you turned 30? That I couldn’t have fun anymore, young party life was over and I had to become a boring mom

What’s the best lesson you’ve learned over the years about beauty?

There is only 1 person who’s opinion matters when it comes to beauty, yours.

What do you consider beautiful about yourself?  My imperfections

What do you consider beautiful about your best friend, which she may not know about herself?

Her imperfections

Did you feel you were beautiful at age 10? I don’t think I cared

Age 15? I don’t think I understood, I was in a very awkward stage

Age 20? For all the wrong, superficial reasons, yes.

Do you feel you are beautiful now? For being smart, funny, kind, generous

Have you had a moment where you realize beauty may be something other than what the media portrays it as? When I looked around a waiting room at the women there and not one looked like the woman on the magazine. Trying to live up to that is exhausting. Try looking more like the woman next to you than the woman “above” you.

What do you hope your daughter learns about beauty? You’ll be exposed to so many different types of beauty, concentrate on the type that makes you feel good and lifts you up.

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Aspirational Clothes Bringing You Down?

Anyone else out there have Spring Fever? The weather has been beautiful for the last few days, the snow is melting, +5 feels a whole lot better this side of winter than it does the other. I gotta tell ya, I can sense the re-birth happening all around, the school kids seem happier, the animals seem frisker, the air seems fresher, and the house seems… well the house needs some sprucing. It’s called spring cleaning for a reason. There’s a whole list, about five arm lengths long, on different projects and needs for our house, as I’m sure is the case at yours. Here’s the one that’s bringing me down the most, The Aspirational Clothes. Everyone has at least one item, probably more like 6 items, in their closet that they just cannot get rid of, it’s waaaayyy too small, but someday, yes someday! You will fit into it again… you can do it, right?

See we call these items The Aspirational Clothes, something to motivate you and for you to look forward to. To help you along with your goal.  Can you just imagine the satisfaction the day you finally fit those jeans again?!?! It’ll all be worth it, you tell yourself. Okay, how about this. What if those Aspirational Clothes are doing the opposite? What if they are bringing you down, instead of pulling you up? And did you ever think by the time you fit into those skinny skinny skinny jeans they’ll be out of style.  

I’ve got a new plan, one that’ll help keep your sanity, keep you on track, motivate you, and de-clutter your house. Go ahead and throw away that insy-binsy-teeny-weeny-yellow-poka-dot-bikini that fit you when you were 14 and never again since. Donate that blouse circa 1993 with the huge shoulder pads and ruffled collar, the 90’s are back…. But not that much. Give up all those “one-day” clothes, let ‘em go! It’s truly liberating and if you have to share a closet this will also help keep the “his clothes are touching mine! Stay on your side of the closet!” fights to a minimum. Okay, so now that you have the satisfaction of de-cluttering the closet, you’re feeling a little lost. Your clothes collection went from “look at all my options” to “I really only have 10 tops?”. C’mon, either way you were only wearing 10 of the tops you had, stop looking at it the wrong way. New game plan, for every pound you lose on your diet or workout plan or lifestyle change, put $10 in a jar. For every inch you lose, put another $5. Once you reach your goal weight and goal size- SHOPPING SPREE!!! (If you have less to lose why not up the price per pound and per inch). So instead of trying to fit into outdated clothes, that totally rocked back-in-the-day, get some new digs that totally rock today.

The 30 Beauty Project: Week 4

It's a feeling, not a look

It's not about how I appear to others, but how I appear to myself.

What are you dreading most about turning 30?

A: The fear of being the only woman I know that doesn't have/or isn't building a family life. Kids, a husband, ect. I used to be the girl that wanted to live in a condo that had a beach view with the dogs, that was married to her career... things have changed.

What’s the best lesson you’ve learned over the years about beauty?

A: It's a feeling, not a look.

What do you consider beautiful about yourself?

A: My acceptance and understanding for those who have suffered. Also, my laugh!! (Which I used to hate.)

What do you consider beautiful about your best friend, which she may not know about herself?

A: Her ability to change a bad mood to a great one in .2 seconds.

Did you feel you were beautiful at age 10?

A: No. I was overweight, in my eyes, and my hair had changed from a golden blonde to a dirt road brown. At that time, I didn't understand that beauty was more than just the way you looked.

Age 15?

A: To a point. I had lost my baby fat, but still had troubles accepting my "flaws."

Age 20?

A: I loved the person I was becoming inside, but continued to battle with the person I was on the outside.

Do you feel you are beautiful now?

A: More than ever. I understand what beauty means to me now. It's not about how I appear to others, but how I appear to myself. And if I love who is looking back at me in mirror, that's all that matters.

What do you hope your daughter learns about beauty? Don't have a daughter? What about a young niece or cousin? or granddaughter or daughter-to-be?

A: That beauty is not flaw free. No one is perfect and those little things you wish were different about yourself, may just be what someone else loves about you. Beauty is also not a slim box, but one that is all different shapes and sizes. Be her no matter what any magazine tells her.

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